This month is famous for Valentines Day and its all about the love. There will be hearts everywhere, flowers, chocolates and everything about love. Now whether you are in a relationship or single I want to ask you a question – do you love yourself?
I speak to women every day who don’t like themselves very much. They look externally for their happiness not thinking that they can make themselves happy. When you look to others to make you happy that’s setting you up for a fall. We are all imperfect and if you are dependent on someone making you happy then whenever they don’t do what you want then you will be upset.
Instead look within for your own happiness appreciate how amazing you really are. Just by being alive that is a gift in itself. So many of us women find it easy to hate on ourselves whether its our weight, our appearance, or we just don’t feel worthy of love. How can you expect someone to fill that void?
You have to love you before all the great things can happen in your life. Thing with loving yourself is you can do this each and every day not just on Valentines Day.
So how do you show yourself love if you don’t like yourself very much? Start small until it just becomes your normal, there are so many things you can do from making your favourite meal, running a bath, getting a massage, buying your favourite perfume. Some things can cost money and some are free what matters is that you do it because it makes you feel good.
Crazy thing is I used to think that flowers are something my partner should buy for me and now if I see some flowers I like I just buy them. We often think there has to be a reason just the fact it makes you feel good is good enough reason. Life is a gift so enjoy it and do things each and every day that make you feel great to be alive. Stop waiting for someone to treat you or that special occasion.
Now some of you may be running a business and if you don’t love yourself then this will severely hold you back. I know because for a while I didn’t love myself and that really stopped me from shining bright. You doubt yourself and you sure as hell don’t put yourself out there like you should.
When you love yourself you value your worth and you get comfortable charging for your services. I found this the hardest battle because people in my area don’t earn a lot of money. So I didn’t feel good about charging a higher price. Thing is you aren’t a charity and you need to make a living and you also need monetary gain for what you do. Nobody works for free we are all worthy of charging a price.
When you love yourself you become more confident with this. I know a lot of women who don’t go on video or do a Facebook or Instagram live because they worry what people will say or do. You have to live your life for you. For the longest time I wasn’t doing this and it held me back. Don’t make your fears be about you and instead fuel that into helping others. When you look at it from that angle you don’t get as scared.
Funny story what helped me get on video is when Trump got elected into power in America. It really woke me up to life and in that moment I thought if he can rule America I can get my sweet ass on video. So stop waiting for the right moment and get started now because people are looking for what you have to offer.
Now the words self-care are said a lot and to be honest can be overused and on a Sunday everywhere you look on social media everyone talks about Self Care Sunday. That is good because it encourages people to rest but why only dedicate Sunday’s to it.
The problem with the Western world is being busy is totally glorified. We’re all too busy for something and its nuts all the times you say you are busy you are literally missing out on your life. It's up to you to make the time and I have made a very conscious decision to have rest at some point in the day.
It could be something as simple as having your lunch away from your desk and really enjoying your food. Or you may just take a walk in nature or do a mediation. People think this is fluff at times but your mental health is just as important as your physical health. When you let your brain rest and take a break you gain inspiration as well as letting it shut off for a bit. Looking after your health isn’t a perk it’s a necessity for you to run a business well.
So show yourself love and not only will your business prosper but your life will too.